Try to recognize what is it that is causing you stress and worry; whether it is maladjustments in the family, financial worries, a responsibility that you find your­self unable to bear, simple overwork, or whatever it is.

Discuss your problem with those in whom you have confidence maybe your wife, a friend and well-wisher, a doctor or a lawyer or some other person. Mere con­fiding of your problem in someone else would relieve you of a lot of burden. Besides, while thinking aloud, it is probable that an idea strikes you or to the person with whom you are discussing, which may prove helpful in getting you out of the situation.

Some people find it very helpful to sleep over a problem. When they get up, they either have an answer to it, or they can think over it with a fresh mind.

If you have a problem which has been pestering you for some days or weeks, it is better to get away from the situation of the problem. Take a trip to some other city, maybe a hill station, or even to a holy or secluded place. This may help you to see the' problem in a proper perspective; maybe, what you were feeling as important or essential does not seem to you so then; or thinking dispassionately, you may arrive at a solution or an understanding or even acceptance.

Maybe, you are becoming tense because you have so many problems at hand. Write down all your pro­blems on a piece of paper. Then arrange them in the order of their severity or intensity. Having done that think about the problem that is on the top of the list, and for the time being try to forget about the rest. After you have more or less conquered it or finished with it, then take up the next, then the next, but one, and so on.

Too many problems at a time cause confusion in the mind and thus create stress, and even apprehen­sion. Their effect is analogous to facing half a dozen enemies together. But if you have one enemy at a time before you, you feel more confident of conquering it.

Have patience. Some problems get more entangled if one cannot practice patience. Do Not get discouraged and certainly do not get frustrated. Frustration gener­ates anger which clouds one's judgment and there develops a tendency to over-react, to panic and to lose self-control and temper. One always feels sorry after having lost temper. It not only makes one look foolish afterwards but also lessens the chances of solving the problem. Learn to hold your temper. Whosoever- loses temper, loses the case. One can be very polite but firm at the same time.

Try to accept a situation which you cannot change. It does not mean that you become apathetic. It is only that you realize your limitations. A couple noticed their child losing his eyesight. He could see objects at a lesser and lesser distance. Consultation with an eye-specialist revealed that he had a congenital defect and there was a real danger that he would lose his eyesight in a few years' time. They naturally got very perturbed and worried. They showed the child to some other doctors who also could give them no assur­ance. Having realized the situation in which their child was, they started preparing themselves and him for the unavoidable that had to happen. Instead of wasting time here and there, they got the child admitted in one of the best schools for handicapped children where he not only started adjusting himself but also learnt a craft. When the child grew up, he kept himself busy in his craft and thus could support himself on his earnings.

This family accepted the situation and did the best it could under the circumstances. Hence, the good result.